Thursday, 19 May 2011
Positive-leaders: How To Know When You See A True Love
Positive-leaders: How To Know When You See A True Love: "This is a very serious issue,many people has falling victim of lust while looking for love. I've learnt that most of the youths in Nigeria ..."
How To Know When You See A True Love
This is a very serious issue,many people has falling victim of lust while looking for love.
I've learnt that most of the youths in Nigeria and diasporal,has been victim of lust at one time or the other,so I decided to teach on the topic.
After several dates, you feel
you've found the perfect person.
This is your dream mate, the one
who will stand by you through
thick and thin. You're ready to tie
the knot at last.
But is it love? Or is it a cheap
imitation, like infatuation, lust, or
even simple companionship?
Here are a few things to consider
as you make the ultimate life-
changing decision:
1. Do you want what's best for
this person, or do you want what
this person can do to help you?
For example, if your mate has the
chance to get a wonderful job in
another city, are you willing to
pull up stakes and move, or will
you expect the job opportunity
to get tossed aside for you? Love
means putting the other
person's needs ahead of your
own, even when that involves
sacrifice. While blind agreement
to any difference of opinion is
unrealistic and unreasonable, a
thoughtful discussion of what is
better for each of you individually
as well as both of you as a couple
needs to take place.
2. Do you enjoy looking at the
person or talking to the person
more? Both are important to a
mature relationship, but if you
find yourself fixated on physical
appearance, attracted to your
mate because of face, figure, or
form, you may be taking a
superficial look at your loved one.
On the other hand, you don't
want to be taken in by flattery or
false statements. If your
significant other is all talk and no
action, that can be a warning
sign to drop the relationship
before you end up with one
broken promise after another. A
balance of physical and mental
attraction is a healthy signal.
3. Are you willing to wait to make
the relationship work? For
example, if your mate pushes you
to do things you don't feel
comfortable with, can you firmly
say no? Will your response be
handled respectfully and with
patience? It goes both ways, too.
Are you willing to wait on your
partner to get more serious
when he or she is ready, or are
you demanding more interaction
now? Can you wait to marry until
the other person finishes school
or are you pushing to live
together first? Patience is an
important virtue associated with
successful, long-term
relationships.
4. Do you support each other by
anticipating and meeting needs?
For example, if you need to work
extra right now to pay off debt
before getting married, does
your mate understand that the
situation is temporary and
willingly wait for you to put in
the extra hours at your job,
rather than complain about your
absence? If the person has a list
of errands to run before the two
of you can get together, do you
offer to help?
5. Are you friends?
Companionship lasts much
longer than ardor, generally
speaking. People in their 70's,
80's, and 90's may lose some of
their physical spontaneity, but
they maintain a quest for fun and
a shared life until the end. Do you
laugh together? Enjoy similar
activities? Share each other with
friends and family? Or do you
expect your perfect mate to
spend all free time with you
exclusively?
Loving another person involves
self-sacrifice and compromise. If
you are attracted to someone for
whom you are unwilling to be
patient and to share all parts of
your life, you may have a lot of
work to do or disappointment to
deal with after the wedding.
Take time now to assess your
relationship with these and other
factors to see if you can make a
life that could last fifty years or
more with the person of your
dreams. Because when you wake
up, your mate will still be there.
I've learnt that most of the youths in Nigeria and diasporal,has been victim of lust at one time or the other,so I decided to teach on the topic.
After several dates, you feel
you've found the perfect person.
This is your dream mate, the one
who will stand by you through
thick and thin. You're ready to tie
the knot at last.
But is it love? Or is it a cheap
imitation, like infatuation, lust, or
even simple companionship?
Here are a few things to consider
as you make the ultimate life-
changing decision:
1. Do you want what's best for
this person, or do you want what
this person can do to help you?
For example, if your mate has the
chance to get a wonderful job in
another city, are you willing to
pull up stakes and move, or will
you expect the job opportunity
to get tossed aside for you? Love
means putting the other
person's needs ahead of your
own, even when that involves
sacrifice. While blind agreement
to any difference of opinion is
unrealistic and unreasonable, a
thoughtful discussion of what is
better for each of you individually
as well as both of you as a couple
needs to take place.
2. Do you enjoy looking at the
person or talking to the person
more? Both are important to a
mature relationship, but if you
find yourself fixated on physical
appearance, attracted to your
mate because of face, figure, or
form, you may be taking a
superficial look at your loved one.
On the other hand, you don't
want to be taken in by flattery or
false statements. If your
significant other is all talk and no
action, that can be a warning
sign to drop the relationship
before you end up with one
broken promise after another. A
balance of physical and mental
attraction is a healthy signal.
3. Are you willing to wait to make
the relationship work? For
example, if your mate pushes you
to do things you don't feel
comfortable with, can you firmly
say no? Will your response be
handled respectfully and with
patience? It goes both ways, too.
Are you willing to wait on your
partner to get more serious
when he or she is ready, or are
you demanding more interaction
now? Can you wait to marry until
the other person finishes school
or are you pushing to live
together first? Patience is an
important virtue associated with
successful, long-term
relationships.
4. Do you support each other by
anticipating and meeting needs?
For example, if you need to work
extra right now to pay off debt
before getting married, does
your mate understand that the
situation is temporary and
willingly wait for you to put in
the extra hours at your job,
rather than complain about your
absence? If the person has a list
of errands to run before the two
of you can get together, do you
offer to help?
5. Are you friends?
Companionship lasts much
longer than ardor, generally
speaking. People in their 70's,
80's, and 90's may lose some of
their physical spontaneity, but
they maintain a quest for fun and
a shared life until the end. Do you
laugh together? Enjoy similar
activities? Share each other with
friends and family? Or do you
expect your perfect mate to
spend all free time with you
exclusively?
Loving another person involves
self-sacrifice and compromise. If
you are attracted to someone for
whom you are unwilling to be
patient and to share all parts of
your life, you may have a lot of
work to do or disappointment to
deal with after the wedding.
Take time now to assess your
relationship with these and other
factors to see if you can make a
life that could last fifty years or
more with the person of your
dreams. Because when you wake
up, your mate will still be there.
Monday, 16 May 2011
Positive-leaders: Notice To All The Christians And Southerners In Th...
Positive-leaders: Notice To All The Christians And Southerners In Th...: "Notice! Notice!!Notice!!! If u 're a christian or a souterner,and u reside anywere in the northern part of the country,pls be security ..."
Notice To All The Christians And Southerners In The Norther
Notice!
Notice!!Notice!!!
If u 're a christian or a
souterner,and u reside anywere
in the northern part of the
country,pls be security cautious or
u change ur location b4 May
29,because According to
information
available to Vanguard, after
their meeting of May 6, “the
following frightening plan of
action were adopted:
“
i. That riots would be
instigated in Kaduna, Bauchi,
Plateau, Borno and Kano
States to precipitate reprisals
against Northerners in the
Southern states;
“ ii. That members will
infiltrate extremist religious
groups to co-opt them into
the mission, in order to
heighten the tempo of
unrest and attract
international attention;
“iii. That sensitive
information about the
government will be aired
through the Hausa Service of
foreign media networks to
discredit the government
and inflame passion among
the citizenry;
“ iv. That all Hausa/Fulanis
holding key appointments in
the federal administration
will be labelled anti-Islam and
anti-North, while their
property and families will be
identified for attack. ”
“v. That the circulation of
inciting messages will be
intensified, while Muslim
clerics will be used to portray
those supporting Mr.
President as non-Muslims.
The clerics will be
encouraged to (employ
means) justify their
vilification of Mr. President’s
supporters in the North;
“ vi. That the picture of Mr.
President kneeling down
before Enoch Adeboye,
General Overseer of the
Redeemed Christian Church
of God, RCCG, will be
circulated among Muslim
clerics in the North, as
evidence that he was a
candidate of Christians,
hence Christians should be
targeted during the planned
riots to exacerbate the crisis;
“vii. That media
organisations sympathetic to
the cause of the North would
be used to mobilise youths in
rural areas to join the
campaign;
“ viii. That Northerners
sympathetic to the cause of
(a particular presidential
candidate) in the employ of
the Federal Government will
be tasked to sabotage its
programmes and procure
sensitive documents that will
be used to blackmail the
authorities;
“ ix. That members would
engage in aggressive
campaign against the
government through various
social networks such as the
Facebook;
“ x. That text messages will
be utilised to portray the
postelection violence as a
manifestation of the
antagonism between
Christians and Muslims;
“ xi. That text messages will
be sent to prominent Hausa/
Fulani politicians to coerce
them to back out of Mr.
President ’s administration;
“xii. That violence will be
engineered in various
campuses of higher
institutions in the North
along religious and ethnic
lines, to attract reprisals in
the South;
“xiii. That the atmosphere of
insecurity, lawlessness and
fear will be sustained
through propaganda and
blackmail;
“ xiv. That trade unions
sympathetic to their cause
will be funded and mobilised
to undermine government
programmes;
“ xv. That the fuel crisis in the
North should be sustained
and exploited to instigate the
kind of unrest witnessed in
the Middle East; and
“ xvi. That members will send
false bomb alerts across the
country to keep the security
agencies on their toes and
cause panic among the
citizenry. ”
Notice!!Notice!!!
If u 're a christian or a
souterner,and u reside anywere
in the northern part of the
country,pls be security cautious or
u change ur location b4 May
29,because According to
information
available to Vanguard, after
their meeting of May 6, “the
following frightening plan of
action were adopted:
“
i. That riots would be
instigated in Kaduna, Bauchi,
Plateau, Borno and Kano
States to precipitate reprisals
against Northerners in the
Southern states;
“ ii. That members will
infiltrate extremist religious
groups to co-opt them into
the mission, in order to
heighten the tempo of
unrest and attract
international attention;
“iii. That sensitive
information about the
government will be aired
through the Hausa Service of
foreign media networks to
discredit the government
and inflame passion among
the citizenry;
“ iv. That all Hausa/Fulanis
holding key appointments in
the federal administration
will be labelled anti-Islam and
anti-North, while their
property and families will be
identified for attack. ”
“v. That the circulation of
inciting messages will be
intensified, while Muslim
clerics will be used to portray
those supporting Mr.
President as non-Muslims.
The clerics will be
encouraged to (employ
means) justify their
vilification of Mr. President’s
supporters in the North;
“ vi. That the picture of Mr.
President kneeling down
before Enoch Adeboye,
General Overseer of the
Redeemed Christian Church
of God, RCCG, will be
circulated among Muslim
clerics in the North, as
evidence that he was a
candidate of Christians,
hence Christians should be
targeted during the planned
riots to exacerbate the crisis;
“vii. That media
organisations sympathetic to
the cause of the North would
be used to mobilise youths in
rural areas to join the
campaign;
“ viii. That Northerners
sympathetic to the cause of
(a particular presidential
candidate) in the employ of
the Federal Government will
be tasked to sabotage its
programmes and procure
sensitive documents that will
be used to blackmail the
authorities;
“ ix. That members would
engage in aggressive
campaign against the
government through various
social networks such as the
Facebook;
“ x. That text messages will
be utilised to portray the
postelection violence as a
manifestation of the
antagonism between
Christians and Muslims;
“ xi. That text messages will
be sent to prominent Hausa/
Fulani politicians to coerce
them to back out of Mr.
President ’s administration;
“xii. That violence will be
engineered in various
campuses of higher
institutions in the North
along religious and ethnic
lines, to attract reprisals in
the South;
“xiii. That the atmosphere of
insecurity, lawlessness and
fear will be sustained
through propaganda and
blackmail;
“ xiv. That trade unions
sympathetic to their cause
will be funded and mobilised
to undermine government
programmes;
“ xv. That the fuel crisis in the
North should be sustained
and exploited to instigate the
kind of unrest witnessed in
the Middle East; and
“ xvi. That members will send
false bomb alerts across the
country to keep the security
agencies on their toes and
cause panic among the
citizenry. ”
Friday, 13 May 2011
3 Steps To Be A Winner
Winners have a particular way to
go about things, and that is what
differentiates them from the rest.
If you want to be a winner at
whatever it is that you do, you
need to start doing what
winners do. Now there are a
multitude of factors that can be
looked at, but let ’s start with 3
simple ways to create a solid
foundation for developing the
proper mindset of being a true
winner.
Ongoing Motivation
Think about how many books
and audiotapes and seminars, as
well as all the articles online such
as this one, that exist in the
world. You ’d think we’d have an
overload of successful and happy
people everywhere with all this
information available. Here ’s the
thing though. Most people will
read a book or listen to an
audiotape once, and get a little
bit of a lift out of it, but then it’s
gone, and they figured that the
content just didn ’t work for
them. Let me ask you this, how
often do you bathe? Well, that ’s
how often you need to expose
yourself to motivation and self
improvement material. Motivation
is not permanent, and neither is
bathing! Start thinking along
those lines, expose yourself to
motivation continuously, and
always look for ways to boost
your determination and drive.
Understand that the boost that
you get is not permanent and
that you need to keep absorbing
motivation on an ongoing basis.
Positive thinking
Yes, we have all been told this
over and over, how positive
thinking is important. However,
you need to look at positive
thinking from another
perspective. Truth is, positive
thinking on its own will not
move mountains. You can be the
most positive person on earth
but if you don ’t take action or,
don’t learn from your errors, and
such, then it will all be in vain. But
positive thinking is important
because it is BETTER THAN
negative thinking. With negative
thinking, you don ’t even stand a
chance to succeed. You are not
even in the ballpark range to
make it happen. At least with
positive thinking, the hope is
there. A few tweaks, a few
actions, a few lessons learned,
and you are on your way to
becoming a winner. Don ’t let
yourself remain a victim of
negative thinking. Embrace
positive thinking, not because
that in itself is life changing, but
because it can provide you with
the opportunity to figure out
how to change your life and
because it is plain and simply
better than negative thinking.
Take care of your health
Let me ask you this question: If
you had a million dollar race
horse, would you feed it junk
food and let it slip into poor
health, or would you do
everything in your power to feed
it properly and keep it in the best
shape possible? Well guess what,
you are that million dollar race
horse! Never forget that. Start
treating your body and your
health with the proper care that
it truly deserves. Remember to
always work harder on yourself
than on anything else in your life.
Your body and health is the
“ battlefield”, where everything in
your existence happens. Promise
yourself to always maintain it in
pristine condition and treat it
better than you do anything else.
Once you start doing that, then
you will start being on track to
developing the mindset of a real
winner.
go about things, and that is what
differentiates them from the rest.
If you want to be a winner at
whatever it is that you do, you
need to start doing what
winners do. Now there are a
multitude of factors that can be
looked at, but let ’s start with 3
simple ways to create a solid
foundation for developing the
proper mindset of being a true
winner.
Ongoing Motivation
Think about how many books
and audiotapes and seminars, as
well as all the articles online such
as this one, that exist in the
world. You ’d think we’d have an
overload of successful and happy
people everywhere with all this
information available. Here ’s the
thing though. Most people will
read a book or listen to an
audiotape once, and get a little
bit of a lift out of it, but then it’s
gone, and they figured that the
content just didn ’t work for
them. Let me ask you this, how
often do you bathe? Well, that ’s
how often you need to expose
yourself to motivation and self
improvement material. Motivation
is not permanent, and neither is
bathing! Start thinking along
those lines, expose yourself to
motivation continuously, and
always look for ways to boost
your determination and drive.
Understand that the boost that
you get is not permanent and
that you need to keep absorbing
motivation on an ongoing basis.
Positive thinking
Yes, we have all been told this
over and over, how positive
thinking is important. However,
you need to look at positive
thinking from another
perspective. Truth is, positive
thinking on its own will not
move mountains. You can be the
most positive person on earth
but if you don ’t take action or,
don’t learn from your errors, and
such, then it will all be in vain. But
positive thinking is important
because it is BETTER THAN
negative thinking. With negative
thinking, you don ’t even stand a
chance to succeed. You are not
even in the ballpark range to
make it happen. At least with
positive thinking, the hope is
there. A few tweaks, a few
actions, a few lessons learned,
and you are on your way to
becoming a winner. Don ’t let
yourself remain a victim of
negative thinking. Embrace
positive thinking, not because
that in itself is life changing, but
because it can provide you with
the opportunity to figure out
how to change your life and
because it is plain and simply
better than negative thinking.
Take care of your health
Let me ask you this question: If
you had a million dollar race
horse, would you feed it junk
food and let it slip into poor
health, or would you do
everything in your power to feed
it properly and keep it in the best
shape possible? Well guess what,
you are that million dollar race
horse! Never forget that. Start
treating your body and your
health with the proper care that
it truly deserves. Remember to
always work harder on yourself
than on anything else in your life.
Your body and health is the
“ battlefield”, where everything in
your existence happens. Promise
yourself to always maintain it in
pristine condition and treat it
better than you do anything else.
Once you start doing that, then
you will start being on track to
developing the mindset of a real
winner.
Saturday, 7 May 2011
All Progressives Grand Alliance,
APGA, governorship candidate,
Rochas Okorocha, has won the
Imo state gubernatorial elections.
The final results announced by
INEC Saturday morning, showed
that the APGA candidate scored
336,859 votes with the
incumbent governor Ikedi
Ohakim scoring 290,490 votes.
Supplementary governorship
election were supposed to be
held, yesterday, in four local
councils and one ward in Imo
State. However, election did not
hold in Oguta local govt due to
security threat.
Rochas Okorocha
19 candidates contested for the
governorship position in the
state.
Prof. Hillary Odoagah, Vice
Chancellor of Michael Opara
University of Agriculture
Umudike and INEC ’s Returning
Officer, announced the results.
APGA, governorship candidate,
Rochas Okorocha, has won the
Imo state gubernatorial elections.
The final results announced by
INEC Saturday morning, showed
that the APGA candidate scored
336,859 votes with the
incumbent governor Ikedi
Ohakim scoring 290,490 votes.
Supplementary governorship
election were supposed to be
held, yesterday, in four local
councils and one ward in Imo
State. However, election did not
hold in Oguta local govt due to
security threat.
Rochas Okorocha
19 candidates contested for the
governorship position in the
state.
Prof. Hillary Odoagah, Vice
Chancellor of Michael Opara
University of Agriculture
Umudike and INEC ’s Returning
Officer, announced the results.
Friday, 6 May 2011
Al Qaeda Confirms Osama Bin Laden ’s Death
Al Qaeda have confirmed Osama
Bin Laden’s death in a statement
posted on jihadist internet
forums.
According to the U.S. monitoring
group SITE Intelligence, coming
five days after the Pakistan raid,
the terror group in a statement
warned their leader ’s “blood will
not be wasted” and attacks on
American and its allies will
continue.
Osama
The statement, as translated by
SITE.
Bin Laden’s death will serve as a
“curse that chases the Americans
and their agents, and goes after
them inside and outside their
countries, ” the message said.
“Soon – with help from Allah –
their happiness will turn into
sorrow, and their blood will be
mixed with their tears, ” it said.
Al Qaeda will “continue on the
path of jihad, the path walked
upon by our leaders, and on top
of them ” bin Laden “without
hesitation or reluctance.”
Bin Laden’s death in a statement
posted on jihadist internet
forums.
According to the U.S. monitoring
group SITE Intelligence, coming
five days after the Pakistan raid,
the terror group in a statement
warned their leader ’s “blood will
not be wasted” and attacks on
American and its allies will
continue.
Osama
The statement, as translated by
SITE.
Bin Laden’s death will serve as a
“curse that chases the Americans
and their agents, and goes after
them inside and outside their
countries, ” the message said.
“Soon – with help from Allah –
their happiness will turn into
sorrow, and their blood will be
mixed with their tears, ” it said.
Al Qaeda will “continue on the
path of jihad, the path walked
upon by our leaders, and on top
of them ” bin Laden “without
hesitation or reluctance.”
How To Plan For A Successfull Future
One of the true secrets to
success (if there is one!) is
having the ability to look far into
the future.
Many people live there lives only
one day at a time. Without ever
considering what their future
holds. These are the same people
that end up supremely
disappointed in their later years.
A study was once done
that interviewed several
multimillionaires, trying to figure
out what they all had in common.
As it turns out, each of them had
several unique and different
qualities about them. However,
there was one thing that almost
every one of them had.
And that was the ability to think
deep into the future.
No. I'm not saying they were
psychic! I'm saying that they
thought about where they
wanted to go five or ten years
from now and they spent every
day working to make that a
reality.
I want you take a few moments
and think about the answers to
the following questions...
What would happen if you
continued on the same path that
you are on right now? Would
you be on the road to success
five years from now? Or would
your life continue to be about the
same? Maybe slightly better?
Think about this for a few
minutes before you come back.
Be brutally honest with yourself
when you answer these
questions.
You see, it's easy to think of
today as just another day. But
when you sit around and do
nothing, that's one more day
that you are postponing any
future success that you may
have.
Are you tired of waiting for
something great to happen to
you? If so, instead of sitting
around and waiting, why don't
you get out and make
something happen.
What do you do? That's for you
to decide. If I was you, I would
start by walking through the
exercise how to discover your
dream and make it a reality
(opens new window). It could
very well be the life changing
experience you are looking for.
You will learn to figure out
exactly how you want your life
to be five or ten years from
now. I wouldn't eat, sleep, or
drink anything else until I
completed that exercise and had
a pretty good idea of what my
dream life was.
Then once I had that figured out,
I would think very hard about
how I was going to make that
dream a reality. It will only take a
few minutes to go through the
exercise.
Once you have it completed, start
doing something that will inch
you closer to your dream. It
doesn't have to be anything
major. Just make sure you take
one tiny little step in the right
direction. The journey of a
thousand miles begins with one
step.
Don't waste any more of your
time waiting for your life to
change. The best time to start is
right now!
Once you have taken that first
step, go out and celebrate! Your
journey is going to be a fun and
enjoyable experience.
Then once you have taken a few
more steps, come back to this
page and read a few of the
articles below. They will serve as
a guide to helping you even
more in planning for your future.
I wish you the best of luck in
your future success!
success (if there is one!) is
having the ability to look far into
the future.
Many people live there lives only
one day at a time. Without ever
considering what their future
holds. These are the same people
that end up supremely
disappointed in their later years.
A study was once done
that interviewed several
multimillionaires, trying to figure
out what they all had in common.
As it turns out, each of them had
several unique and different
qualities about them. However,
there was one thing that almost
every one of them had.
And that was the ability to think
deep into the future.
No. I'm not saying they were
psychic! I'm saying that they
thought about where they
wanted to go five or ten years
from now and they spent every
day working to make that a
reality.
I want you take a few moments
and think about the answers to
the following questions...
What would happen if you
continued on the same path that
you are on right now? Would
you be on the road to success
five years from now? Or would
your life continue to be about the
same? Maybe slightly better?
Think about this for a few
minutes before you come back.
Be brutally honest with yourself
when you answer these
questions.
You see, it's easy to think of
today as just another day. But
when you sit around and do
nothing, that's one more day
that you are postponing any
future success that you may
have.
Are you tired of waiting for
something great to happen to
you? If so, instead of sitting
around and waiting, why don't
you get out and make
something happen.
What do you do? That's for you
to decide. If I was you, I would
start by walking through the
exercise how to discover your
dream and make it a reality
(opens new window). It could
very well be the life changing
experience you are looking for.
You will learn to figure out
exactly how you want your life
to be five or ten years from
now. I wouldn't eat, sleep, or
drink anything else until I
completed that exercise and had
a pretty good idea of what my
dream life was.
Then once I had that figured out,
I would think very hard about
how I was going to make that
dream a reality. It will only take a
few minutes to go through the
exercise.
Once you have it completed, start
doing something that will inch
you closer to your dream. It
doesn't have to be anything
major. Just make sure you take
one tiny little step in the right
direction. The journey of a
thousand miles begins with one
step.
Don't waste any more of your
time waiting for your life to
change. The best time to start is
right now!
Once you have taken that first
step, go out and celebrate! Your
journey is going to be a fun and
enjoyable experience.
Then once you have taken a few
more steps, come back to this
page and read a few of the
articles below. They will serve as
a guide to helping you even
more in planning for your future.
I wish you the best of luck in
your future success!
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